Why am I writing about this? I’ve been there— and it was a bumpy ride...

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They're Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parent' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy - by Francine Russo   Amazon | Borders | Barnes & Noble
       Random House | Indie Bound

“...a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transition... unique in the field of close relationships…"

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Pauline Boss,  Author, Ambiguous Loss (Harvard University Press) 

"...Not to be missed ...More than a how-to book, this groundbreaking work illuminates a difficult stage of life..."

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 Library Journal  

Francine answers questions about her new book.


 

 

 

 


 

WNYC.org (NPR)
Leonard Lopate Show
Interview about Family Matters
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NEWS TALK RADIO 710JOAN HAMBURG SHOW
The Joan Hamburg Show
Interview about the book They're Your Parents, Too
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NEW YORK TIMES
Oh Brother, Where Art Thou?
"High on the list of stuff that drives caregivers berserk, along with Medicare regulations and nursing home staff shortages, is the behavior of brothers and sisters."
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GLOBE AND MAIL
Caring for Elderly Parents Inflames Old Sibling Rivalries.
"Boomers with aging parents face myriad issues, not least of which is sibling rivalry, writes the author of They’re Your Parents, Too!"
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LIBRARY JOURNAL
“... NOT TO BE MISSED for this editor's money...FRANCINE RUSSO'S They're Your Parents, Too!!
More than a how-to book, this GROUNDBREAKING work illuminates a difficult stage of life."
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U.S. NEWS
Francine Russo on Caring for Your Aging Parents - Anyone with siblings whose parents are getting older should check out a new book by longtime journalist and author Francine Russo
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9 Mistakes Adult Siblings Make When Parents are Aging - ...journalist and author Francine Russo discusses one of life's most trying transitions: when parents are aging, sick, and dying. Click here to read more...

 

UPCOMING EVENTS

RESCHEDULED! FOR MARCH 3rd! (BLIZZARD!)New York County Lawyers Association
TALK AND BOOK SIGNING: "They're Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging"  
Sibling rivalry and power struggles can erupt when one (or more) siblings become the family caregiver.
NOW MARCH 3, 2010, 6:00pm, 14 Vesey Street, NY, NY  RSVP: dlamb@nycla.org with 'March 3 Event' in subject line

Jewish Home Lifecare
BREAKFAST, PANEL DISCUSSION AND BOOK SIGNING: They're Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging  Help for the family caregiver and siblings
March 2, 2010, 8:30 a.m-10:a.m., 120 West 106th Street, Manhattan
Please RSVP by February 22 at HRobsenberg@jewishhome.org   

Aging in America Conference, Chicago, March 18-19  
3/17/2010
The Parent Care Wars: Crisis and Chaos in the Twilight of the Family [Poster Session]
Time: 1:30:00 PM - 2:30:00 PM

3/19/2010
Sibling Wars and Parent Care: Achieving Peace or Civil Collaboration [Workshop]
Time: 8:00:00 AM
co-presented with geriatric care managers Rona Bartlelstone and Steve Barlam

A Conversation with Francine Russo, St. Paul, MN 
3/23/10
Time: 3:00 - 5:00 PM
Location: DARTS 1645 Marthaler Lane
West St. Paul, MN 55118

Discussion and Signing, They're Your Parents, Too! 
3/24/10
Time: 7:00 PM
Barnes & Noble, Edina MN


RECENT EVENTS

92Y Tribecca
LUNCHTIME TALK: “They’re Your Parents, Too!” How Siblings Can Deal with Each Other about Caring for Aging Parents. Emotions run high between the family caregiver and siblings; insight and practical help, from helping siblings  communicate to interviewing and hiring geriatric care managers or elder law attorneys.  February 4, 2010

 Voice America's Age Wise Living Radio Show
INTERVIEW by Barbara Friesner
: “They’re Your Parents, Too!” How Siblings Can Deal with Each Other about Caring for Aging Parents. Insight and practical help for the family caregiver and her siblings
Listen online at:  http://www.modavox.com/voiceamerica/vshow.aspx?sid=1532

 

 

 

PRAISE FOR THEY'RE YOUR PARENTS, TOO!

“Francine Russo has written a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transition—the sibling relationships when parents are in decline and then die. She addresses the many psychological demands on adult children during this major family transition, deftly knitting together interdisciplinary information from researchers, experienced clinicians, and adult siblings themselves. With her writerly skill and psychological understanding, Russo’s book is unique in the field of close relationships. A must-read for boomers who are at this difficult juncture.

This book is also important for professionals working with sibling and family relationships--social workers; geriatric care professionals, psychologists, family therapists, family life educators, and clergy. Not only is there new professional information, it is, because Russo writes so accessibly, a great book for them to recommend to their clients or students.”

Pauline Boss, Professor Emeritus, University of Minnesota, Author, Ambiguous Loss, Harvard University Press; Loss, Trauma and Resilience, WW Norton, Family therapist in private practice  

“I wish Francine Russo had been my tutor as I faced my own mother’s decline and death. All the issues that came up for my brother and sister and me are addressed so accurately and compassionately in this book. This is a manual that shows us how to negotiate a healing path through our parents’ final challenge, and prepares us for our own."

David Richo, PhD., author of When the Past is Present (Shambhala, 2008) and How To Be An Adult (Paulist, 1991)

                                                  

“Interesting, relevant, insightful! Anyone who reads this book will find something that opens a window to new thinking about themselves and their relationships. Russo has really done her homework.  I’m recommending this to everyone I know who’s having sibling issues around their parents—and that’s practically everyone I know.”

Harriett Balkind, founder of SNOETY.COM (SECRETS NO ONE EVER TOLD YOU ®), the website for who want to stay interested and interesting.

“This book by Francine Russo will be enormously helpful to siblings struggling with the many challenges posed as their parents grow older.”

Robert N. Butler, M.D, President and CEO, International Longevity Center, Founding Director, National Institute on Aging 

                                                      

"Russo is so insightful, so psychologically acute and compassionate that she held me rapt for the whole book...[They're Your Parents, Too!] is the first book if it's kind I have ever read and I am extremely grateful to [Russo] for giving us her wisdom and the help of the experts whose voices guide us through what is an extremely difficult passage for us all."

Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, University of Washington (Seattle) and Relationship Expert

                                                  

“Even I, who practice mediation for a living and am able to help people with their difficult conversations, found it extremely difficult to start my own family’s discussions about caring for our mother without help from outside. Now I am committed to helping families find ways to have such conversations, using Francine Russo’s useful and engaging book as a springboard.” 

Brigitte Bell, Brigitte Bell Mediation, Evanston, IL