Why am I writing about this? I’ve been there— and it was a bumpy ride...

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They're Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parent' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy - by Francine Russo   Amazon | Borders | Barnes & Noble
       Random House | Indie Bound

“...a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transition... unique in the field of close relationships…"

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Pauline Boss,  Author, Ambiguous Loss (Harvard University Press) 

"...Not to be missed ...More than a how-to book, this groundbreaking work illuminates a difficult stage of life..."

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 Library Journal  

Francine answers questions about her new book.


 

 

 

 


 

NEW YORK TIMES
JANE BRODY, Francine Russo ['s ]...excellent new book"
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LIBRARY JOURNAL
NOT TO BE MISSED ... FRANCINE RUSSO'S They're Your Parents, Too!! 
More than a how-to book, this GROUNDBREAKING work illuminates a difficult stage of life."
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NEW YORK TIMES
"Or consult Francine Russo's Book,
They're Your Parents, Too!"
"The New Old Age Blog"

WALL STREET JOURNAL
"When Siblings Step Up"
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THE WEEK
GAIL SHEEHY'S 6 BEST BOOKS for Caregivers: They're Your Parents, Too! tops list
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U.S. NEWS & WORLD REPORT
Francine Russo on Caring for Your Aging Parents - Anyone with siblings whose parents are getting older should check out a new book by longtime journalist and author Francine Russo 
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9 Mistakes Adult Siblings Make When Parents are Aging - ...journalist and author Francine Russo discusses one of life's most trying transitions: when parents are aging, sick, and dying. 
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CHANNEL 12, CONNECTICUT
Francine talks about her new book
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SLOAN WORK AND FAMILY NETWORK NEWS
SIBLING DYNAMICS AND ELDER CAREGIVING:An interview with Francine Russo
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WALL STREET JOURNAL
Francine Russo... talks with the Wall Street Journal's Anne Tergesen
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NEW YORK TIMES
Oh Brother, Where Art Thou? 
"Francine Russo has waded fearlessly into this emotional thicket...."
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WNYC.org (NPR)
Leonard Lopate Show
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GLOBE AND MAIL  Click here to read more...

UPCOMING EVENTS

 Keynote, Texas Council on Family Relations (TCFR)

Annual Conference, April 3, 2014


 'NO OLD PEOPLE IN THIS FAMILY!' How Families can Prepare for Aging— EMOTIONALLY and FINANCIALLY" Iowa BANKS TOUR for Heritage and Senior AccountsApril 16-19,2012, Iowa City, Dubuque, Mason City, Spencer

 "Francine’s talk for our AmeriClub members, “No Old People in our Family” was awesome!  She held the audience captive for an hour of helpful, insightful and compassionate insights into the many challenges adult children face , delivered with such sincerity, personal knowledge and humor. It was one of the best programs I have had the privilege of attending in a long time.”  Joan Gibson, AmeriClub Director, American Trust & Savings Bank, Dubuque, IA 

 Keynote Speaker:Del Oro Caregiver Resource Center  
  Arden Hills Resort and Spa, Sacramento, CA November 1, 2012 

Keynote Speaker:Young Presidents Organization, Kansas City
Kansas City, Kansas January 7, 2013

RECENT EVENTS

Keynote Speaker: Hudson Valley Home Matters Annual Conference  
  Wallace Center, Hyde Park, NY April 26, 2012 
 
Keynote Speaker:Northern Plains Conference on Aging and Disability (NPCAD)  
  Fargo, ND, September 25, 2012Keynote Speaker


National Association of Senior Move Managers

Austin, TX  January 13-14, 2012

Keynote Speaker, Alzheimer's Program Anniversary Conference, JCC
September 20, 2011 New Orleans, LA
 

 Sibling Rumble: How We Deal with Aging Parents—and Each Other
 SPOP (Service Program for Older People) 
Thursday May 19th, at the Skadden Arps, New York
 

 Dealing with Aging Parents—and Each Other
Arden Courts, HCR-Manorcare 

May 24, King of Prussia, PA
May 25, Hatboro, PA
May 26, Yardley, PA

Guest Author, What's Next 50+and Beyond Summit, April 29, 2011
San Francisco, Park 55 Hotel  

 Speaker, Family Caregiver Alliance, San Francisco
Work with Your Siblings to Keep Your Life, Family & Sanity Intact!"
Thursday April 28, 2011 12:00-1:15 pm
 

Keynote Address
Marshall, Parker & Associates'Annual Professional Update 
Thursday May 5th, Wilkes-Barre,PA

Keynote speaker, mmLearn.org
San Antonio, TX March 31, 2011

Keynote speaker, Montana Gerontology Association Conference
Butte, Montana,,April 13-14, 2011

New England Center for Work & Family, December 8, 2010
Eldercare Web Conference for Human Resources Professionals 

BOOMERVISION, WHYY, Philadelphia, Nov 3rd, 6:30 pm
How Boomer Siblings Can Deal with their Aging Parents—and Each Other!

Prince William Area Agency on Aging
KEYNOTE ADDRESS: Caregiver Conference, Manassas, VA
October 23, 2010

NorthShore LIJ Health System
KEYNOTE ADDRESS: Caregiving Conference, Douglaston, NY
October 26, 2010

 

PRAISE FOR THEY'RE YOUR PARENTS, TOO!

“Francine Russo has written a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transition—the sibling relationships when parents are in decline and then die. She addresses the many psychological demands on adult children during this major family transition, deftly knitting together interdisciplinary information from researchers, experienced clinicians, and adult siblings themselves. With her writerly skill and psychological understanding, Russo’s book is unique in the field of close relationships. A must-read for boomers who are at this difficult juncture.

This book is also important for professionals working with sibling and family relationships--social workers; geriatric care professionals, psychologists, family therapists, family life educators, and clergy. Not only is there new professional information, it is, because Russo writes so accessibly, a great book for them to recommend to their clients or students.”

Pauline Boss, Professor Emeritus, University of Minnesota, Author, Ambiguous Loss, Harvard University Press; Loss, Trauma and Resilience, WW Norton, Family therapist in private practice  

“I wish Francine Russo had been my tutor as I faced my own mother’s decline and death. All the issues that came up for my brother and sister and me are addressed so accurately and compassionately in this book. This is a manual that shows us how to negotiate a healing path through our parents’ final challenge, and prepares us for our own."

David Richo, PhD., author of When the Past is Present (Shambhala, 2008) and How To Be An Adult (Paulist, 1991)

                                                  

“Interesting, relevant, insightful! Anyone who reads this book will find something that opens a window to new thinking about themselves and their relationships. Russo has really done her homework.  I’m recommending this to everyone I know who’s having sibling issues around their parents—and that’s practically everyone I know.”

Harriett Balkind, founder of SNOETY.COM (SECRETS NO ONE EVER TOLD YOU ®), the website for who want to stay interested and interesting.

“This book by Francine Russo will be enormously helpful to siblings struggling with the many challenges posed as their parents grow older.”

Robert N. Butler, M.D, President and CEO, International Longevity Center, Founding Director, National Institute on Aging 

                                                      

"Russo is so insightful, so psychologically acute and compassionate that she held me rapt for the whole book...[They're Your Parents, Too!] is the first book if it's kind I have ever read and I am extremely grateful to [Russo] for giving us her wisdom and the help of the experts whose voices guide us through what is an extremely difficult passage for us all."

Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., Professor of Sociology, University of Washington (Seattle) and Relationship Expert

                                                  

“Even I, who practice mediation for a living and am able to help people with their difficult conversations, found it extremely difficult to start my own family’s discussions about caring for our mother without help from outside. Now I am committed to helping families find ways to have such conversations, using Francine Russo’s useful and engaging book as a springboard.” 

Brigitte Bell, Brigitte Bell Mediation, Evanston, IL