Why am I writing about this? I’ve been there— and it was a bumpy ride...

A glimpse of some of the book’s stories and insights, each with something to tell us about ourselves.

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They're Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parent' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy - by Francine Russo   Amazon | Borders | Barnes & Noble
       Random House | Indie Bound

“...a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transition... unique in the field of close relationships…"

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Pauline Boss,  Author, Ambiguous Loss (Harvard University Press) 

"...Not to be missed ...More than a how-to book, this groundbreaking work illuminates a difficult stage of life..."

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Francine answers questions about her new book.


 

 

 

 


 

In the tradition of Francine's Time magazine column "Ask Francine," this blog will have frequent responses from reader submitted questions (see bottom of page, or, click here to submit your own question or sibling story), tips on how to maintain healthy sibling relations, and anything else that's on Francine's mind at the moment. Your comments are encouraged, and welcome to the blog!

Friday
Jan222010

Who Takes Care of Mom?

Time magazine asked me to write this piece: WHO TAKES CARE OF MOM?  IT'S in this week's issue, which is great. But I had only 800 words to introduce people to what I wrote a whole book about!

Monday
Jan042010

Dear Francine, If my brother wants to know how Mom is doing, why doesn’t he get his butt down here and see for himself?

Dear Francine,

I need this book. Let me give you an example why: Recently, without telling me, my brother wrote to the nursing home where my mother is, asking if some third person could come see her on his behalf and be treated as "family." Who is this third person? What business is it of hers? Why didn’t he tell me about her?

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Monday
Dec072009

Dear Francine, I feel uneasy about the "lovey dovey" bond between my mother, who’s 97, and her home aide

Dear Francine,

My mother just turned 97! and after a lot of snafus, my sister and I are working together harmoniously to take care of her. Speaking for myself, I have to put the past away, really away, to face and resolve present challenges with our extremely elderly parent. She's still reading, going to the theater, walking on a walker, so we are fortunate.

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Thursday
Nov052009

In Praise of Geriatric Care Managers—When Sibling Feelings Run Amok

Since I started working on my book, They’re Your Parents, Too!, people I barely know have approached me with questions. Some, whose parents are still fairly independent, were looking worriedly toward the future. “I have two sisters,” one woman told me, “and we get along. But I can already see there might be trouble ahead. What can I do?”

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Thursday
Nov052009

A Call for Compassion (for your “Useless” Brother or “Selfish” Sister)

So you’re pushing fifty now, maybe even sixty. Remember the days when you and your siblings were kids and locked in mortal combat to be in charge—or get more attention or the bigger room? Well, don’t look now, but those days are back!  With aging parents, you’re in a new kind of family reunion that is anything but a weekend at the beach.

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