My senior executive friend Cathy is a most rational and reasonable person. So when she called ranting about the crimes of her sister Lynette, I was taken aback. Their mother's beloved cat Rufus had been put to sleep while under Lynette's care, and Cathy was seething with grief and rage. You'd think her sister had murdered that sad, ancient tabby. Click here to read more
In the tradition of Francine's Time magazine column "Ask Francine," this blog will have frequent responses from reader submitted questions (see bottom of page, or, click here to submit your own question or sibling story), tips on how to maintain healthy sibling relations, and anything else that's on Francine's mind at the moment. Your comments are encouraged, and welcome to the blog!
New York Times - In her February 11 entry of her Blog "The New Old Age" Paula Span talks about the problems siblings have with one another when dealing with aging parents, using "They're Your Parents, Too!" as a reference and quoting me directly.
"High on the list of stuff that drives caregivers berserk, along with Medicare regulations and nursing home staff shortages, is the behavior of brothers and sisters. <more>
CONTEST WINNERS: "Started reading last night..My husband had to peel it out of my hands around midnight"
Winner: Donna Bogash, Maryland
'Hi Francine, I just wanted to let you know that I received and started your book last night. I could not put it down. My husband had to peel it out of my hands around midnight (I'm usually asleep by 10:00.) I did order a copy for my sister through http://www.facebook.com/l/3659d;Amazon.com. She should have it this week. If I could only get my two brothers to read it too." Donna
Winner: Anita (name withheld), Illinois
"Francine, I've never before sought out a "how-to" guide. But no matter how well prepared one thinks they are - and how strong are their sibling ties - anticipated and unanticipated struggles in caring for aging parents do seem to take a toll on relationships - whether its because one sibling feels they're assuming all the responsibility, or another sibling is struggling with feeling guilt that they can't share equal responsibility because they're out of town. How do we make it work - for our parent, our relationship, and ourselves?" Anita
I just started a new blog for Psychology Today. The blog is named Aging Parents and the Sibling Rumble and the first blog entry is:
If you're a baby boomer dealing with elderly parents and someone asks you about your siblings, you're likely to roll your eyes, laugh bleakly or swear. Or maybe you'll just say: "Boy, do I have a story for you!" (Or if you're a lot younger, you may have a story about your mom and her siblings!) Read More
Francine welcomes any questions from visitors regarding aging parents, siblings, grieving and more. To submit your own question or sibling story to Francine, click here.