Why am I writing about this? I’ve been there— and it was a bumpy ride...

A glimpse of some of the book’s stories and insights, each with something to tell us about ourselves.

Advice on Sibling and Family Dynamics

Organizations and websites where a family caregiver or siblings can get help.
















They're Your Parents, Too! How Siblings Can Survive Their Parent' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy - by Francine Russo   Amazon | Borders | Barnes & Noble
       Random House | Indie Bound

“...a stunning book about one of the most complex but ignored times of human transition... unique in the field of close relationships…"


Pauline Boss,  Author, Ambiguous Loss (Harvard University Press) 

"...Not to be missed ...More than a how-to book, this groundbreaking work illuminates a difficult stage of life..."

 Library Journal  

Francine answers questions about her new book.






In the tradition of Francine's Time magazine column "Ask Francine," this blog will have frequent responses from reader submitted questions (see bottom of page, or, click here to submit your own question or sibling story), tips on how to maintain healthy sibling relations, and anything else that's on Francine's mind at the moment. Your comments are encouraged, and welcome to the blog!


Who Killed Mom's Cat? A mystery story now on Huffpo

My senior executive friend Cathy is a most rational and reasonable person. So when she called ranting about the crimes of her sister Lynette, I was taken aback. Their mother's beloved cat Rufus had been put to sleep while under Lynette's care, and Cathy was seething with grief and rage. You'd think her sister had murdered that sad, ancient tabby. Click here to read more


Francine on the Leonard Lopate Show

A great experience to be interviewed by one of the best, and the callers were great too. Sorry, but I can't help getting a kick out of this: Ethan Hawke was the headliner for this show, called Family Matters. He got 2 people commenting on the website. I got 18! Yeah, I know, one of those immature satisfactions....but I'm loving it! (click here to listen)

Oh Brother, Where Art Thou?

New York Times - In her February 11 entry of her Blog "The New Old Age" Paula Span  talks about the problems siblings have with one another when dealing with aging parents, using "They're Your Parents, Too!" as a reference and quoting me directly.

"High on the list of stuff that drives caregivers berserk, along with Medicare regulations and nursing home staff shortages, is the behavior of brothers and sisters. <more>


CONTEST WINNERS: "Started reading last night..My husband had to peel it out of my hands around midnight"

Winner: Donna Bogash, Maryland

'Hi Francine, I just wanted to let you know that I received and started your book last night.  I could not put it down.  My husband had to peel it out of my hands around midnight (I'm usually asleep by 10:00.)  I did order a copy for my sister  through http://www.facebook.com/l/3659d;Amazon.com.  She should have it this week.  If I could only get my two brothers to read it too."  Donna

Winner: Anita (name withheld), Illinois
"Francine, I've never before sought out a "how-to" guide.  But no matter how well prepared one thinks they are - and how strong are their sibling ties - anticipated and unanticipated struggles in caring for aging parents do seem to take a toll on relationships - whether its because one sibling feels they're assuming all the responsibility, or another sibling is struggling with feeling guilt that they can't share equal responsibility because they're out of town.  How do we make it work - for our parent, our relationship, and ourselves?"  Anita


Now Blogging for Psychology Today

I just started a new blog for Psychology Today. The blog is named Aging Parents and the Sibling Rumble and the first blog entry is:

A New Psychological Crisis: The Last Transition of our First Family  

If you're a baby boomer dealing with elderly parents and someone asks you about your siblings, you're likely to roll your eyes, laugh bleakly or swear. Or maybe you'll just say: "Boy, do I have a story for you!" (Or if you're a lot younger, you may have a story about your mom and her siblings!) Read More